I'm actually not that uncomfortable with the "let the patient decide" approach if the doctors give us what I was given... a decision between two right choices.
What I do think is important is for them to fully explain to us the pros and cons of those right choices and
that is a tough job. Then our own preferences based on our life situation can be useful.
What does worry me is what goes on here.
A doctor explains things to a patient, who is under a fair bit of stress, who then tries to explain the issues here in a post far shorter than the article we just saw, and gets ideas from other patients who are basing their ideas on their own experience and through their own filter of maybe or maybe not writing all that well.
That's why I think it is critical that we consider every idea given here as something to ask our doctors about. What could be absolutely correct for one patient may be ruled out for another and the critical factors might never make it into a thread.
I think we do a great job supporting each other and opening our eyes up to other possibilities. Just remember the limitations.
Cheers,
Andy